The Onus is on You: Lead by Giving

Addepar“Organizations are not networks,” says one exec in Stiletto Network. “Organizations are opportunities to build your networks.”

Karen White (President & COO of Addepar; former Oracle & private equity honcho; Stiletto Network Chapter 6) says that when a woman attends some esteemed institution of higher learning or gets hired by a reputable firm, the onus is on her to be active in her network – both inside and outside of her company.

We must work hard for others if we want others to work hard for us. We should lead by giving.

“People choose all types of criteria to favor – their alma mater, ex-football players, women,” White says. “But you have to be a contributor. Networks give you access, and if you’re in a network – at least in Silicon Valley – it’s assumed you will participate. All you have is your reputation around your capabilities and for keeping your commitments. You can fail at your venture, survive that, and move on to thrive in the next. But without the pillar of your network, your chances of succeeding are de minimus.”

In Silicon Valley, there’s less segregation of friends, family, work, church, temple, mosque. It’s all blended, and men and women see a fuller spectrum of each other’s worlds. This is way the rest of society is heading too.

People are relying more on their networks and less on their organizations.

So, what are you doing to feed your network? Whom have you helped today?

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No one thought it would work, but we’ve gone all over the U.S. and brought hundreds of women along. Our women’s initiative was the most successful pilot in the history of the Red Cross. This is a global movement, and women are now asking other women. It’s our golf course—these strong, vibrant, powerful circles. And we’ve hit the big time.”

Melanie Sabelhaus, entrepreneur, executive, former Deputy Administrator of the U.S. Small Business Administration (SBA), and Vice Chairman, The American Red Cross

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