The Onus is on You: Lead by Giving

Addepar“Organizations are not networks,” says one exec in Stiletto Network. “Organizations are opportunities to build your networks.”

Karen White (President & COO of Addepar; former Oracle & private equity honcho; Stiletto Network Chapter 6) says that when a woman attends some esteemed institution of higher learning or gets hired by a reputable firm, the onus is on her to be active in her network – both inside and outside of her company.

We must work hard for others if we want others to work hard for us. We should lead by giving.

“People choose all types of criteria to favor – their alma mater, ex-football players, women,” White says. “But you have to be a contributor. Networks give you access, and if you’re in a network – at least in Silicon Valley – it’s assumed you will participate. All you have is your reputation around your capabilities and for keeping your commitments. You can fail at your venture, survive that, and move on to thrive in the next. But without the pillar of your network, your chances of succeeding are de minimus.”

In Silicon Valley, there’s less segregation of friends, family, work, church, temple, mosque. It’s all blended, and men and women see a fuller spectrum of each other’s worlds. This is way the rest of society is heading too.

People are relying more on their networks and less on their organizations.

So, what are you doing to feed your network? Whom have you helped today?

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  1. From Robert j Gilman on August 29, 2013

    Helping others have a better idea and strategy for crowd funding. After having ran a successful crowd funding campaign, I began to freely give guidance and instruction to all – by teleconference, email, and in classes. Truly, giving is receiving. You learn a lot more by giving.

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When we put people together and say, ‘Can you help this woman?’ everyone in our group says ‘Yes, absolutely.’ It’s amazing… By the end of every dinner, we all have something we can do to further somebody else. Times have changed and women are in a position to help each other and make a difference. There’s momentum now, and we’re stitched together tighter.”

Kim Moses, executive producer/director/writer, principal at Sander/Moses Productions and SLAM

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